Saturday, August 14, 2010

#10 ending life journey with mom

Mom came home from the nursing home 7 days ago. She had many physical changes in the last 7 days. From deep sleeping for 12 hours  with no water and food then moving to restlessness for 9 hours and drinking water every 15 minutes.  She stopped eating regular food. We are going and going according to my mother's biological body needs.  She now has a urinary catheter.

When the hospice nurse came out on Saturday (8/7/10), I asked her to check mom for stool. Mom had bowel tones and no stool in the rectum.  We were told mom had only weeks left. I left Sunday (8/8/10) to go home to Snohomish. I returned back to work on Monday 8/9/10.  My husband and Joe gave me a wonderful birthday party on 8/10/10.

On 8/12/10 at 10:30am, my mother became extremely agitated with my brother who cares for my mother alone in the home. My mother was hitting, scratching, seeing people, and screaming.  The hospice social worker came at 11am to witness my mother's behavior. My mother told the two men during her restlessness she had to go number 2. 
Mom had a bowel movement 7 days ago when she returned from the nursing home.  My mother was drinking a nutritional supplement and baby rice cereal and water.   She takes small amounts. We increased her water intake and her headaches have stopped.  We are trying to do comfort with food and fluid as long as mom wants.

A terrific doctor returned my brother's phone call from a message he left the day before.  He called during mom's behavior crisis. He gave my brother directions on what kind of medications to give. The doctor said mom would need to take constipation medicine.  A  suppository would also need to be given for mom to have a bowel movement.

My brother called me at 7pm. He said he could not care for mom alone, he needed my help.  I left my home and arrived in Olympia at 10pm. I have been here with mom and my brother ever since.


Mermaids of the Lake said...

I am so, so sorry for you suffering and for the suffering of your mom. So sad. What a difficult time you and your family are experiencing right now. I recently went through something similar with my 95 year old grandma. She passed in Jan. Thank God. It is an excruciating time for the family and especially if they are also the caregivers. I miss her every day, but am grateful that her suffering is over. Ours too. Blessings to you and your family.

Mermaid Debbie

vickysplace1 said...

Debbie, Thank you for the encouraging words. My mother is comfortable with the regime we have her on. It is still hard to see her go through each step of dying. I wish it could be quick and done.